Feeling Trapped

james edwards · Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2004 10:00 pm Post subject: Feeling Trapped

~Who knows how this got to Mara, but here goes~

Dear Mara,
For almost a year now I have felt trapped, almost caged if you will, now I am not sure if it is just pressure from my friends or something else entirely. It seems since I played a practical joke on my good friend no one wishes to speak to me. Also I find myself waiting for my starter, I ordered the soup and find myself wishing I'd ordered the prawn cocktail
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Maraiana Mashal · Posted: Tue Nov 30, 2004 1:41 am Post subject: Re: Feeling Trapped

Dear Trapped,

Its good that you recognize your feelings, and perhaps there is something to the things you say about their source.

If you think the pressure is coming from friends, you need to talk to them - tell them what their behaviour is doing and ask them to back off. If they won't, they aren't the supportive kinds of people you need in your life.

If you think the pressure is coming from somewhere else, perhaps some personal reflection would be helpful to pinpoint the source. I find journalling to be an immense help at times like this.

With regards to your ostratization by your social circle - all I can say is that sometimes practical jokes cause more pain that the joker realizes. Perhaps a long heart-to-heart with the jokee would be in order, if for nothing more than to apologize for causing unwanted pain.

Often in our lives, we think we want something, and do everything in our power to get it - then once it is in our hands we realize we didn't want it at all. Such is life. Dump the soup on the floor, or give it to someone else and go after that cocktail.

Good Luck,

Mara

P.S. When all else fails - throw something...
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